the one another weapon

This post is part of a chain blog, you can read more about that after you read my awesome post.

One of the best things about being in a Christian marriage is that when your spouse isn’t doing what you want you can use the Bible as a weapon against them. I don’t mean that you throw it at them, even though that would sometimes seem effective, it is also illegal and could be construed as physical abuse. Fortunately there are no such laws against spiritual abuse, and you can weaponize the words of the Bible to beat your spouse into submission with no worries about getting hauled off to jail. See, when a wife doesn’t make you the dinner you asked for, or actually has the audacity to form her own political or theological opinions, you can tell her that she is called, as a Christian woman, to submit to her husband. When a husband wants to go fishing or watch football on Sunday afternoon, the wife can tell him that he, as a Christian husband, is required to love his wife before himself so he must watch Top Model or go to the Mall or whatever.

I realized today that this power that we can exercise over others through the Bible is not simply limited to marriage. Chris shared a great post where he explains that we should be paying off one another’s debts. This is awesome! I can rack up my credit card bills with that 72″ LCD TV I’ve been eying, and you, as a fellow Christian, should be paying those off for me. If we start looking at all the “one another” passages in the Bible, we have a whole arsenal of weaponry to use against ANYBODY who claims to be a fellow Christian. It’s totally going to change my life! Let’s look at a few examples:

Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another. – Rom 12:10

Application: Oh, you don’t want to let me cut you in line? Have you read Romans 12:10 that says you should give preference to one another? Yeah, that’s more like it.

Now therefore, it is already an utter failure for you that you go to law against one another. Why do you not rather accept wrong? – 1 Cor 6:7

Application: Did you rear-end a fellow Christian, cause them severe neck injuries? Are their medical bills going to skyrocket your insurance? Well, if you let the guy know that he shouldn’t go to law against you, then you’ll be all set, and he can figure out how to get the neck injury fixed for himself.

For you, brethren, have been called to liberty; only do not use liberty as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. – Gal 5:13

Application: Can you get me some food? No? Well, a good Christian knows that we should serve one another.

And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you. – Eph 4:32

Application: I’m about to punch you in the face, but you can’t be mad because you have to be tenderhearted and forgiving to me.

The list could go on and on. See, the biggest thing to remember is that these passages should not be interpreted through the perspective of how I should act toward others, but how others should act toward me. When you shift your focus from others to yourself you can really start tapping into the power of the “one another” passages!




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The Chain (I didn’t write these, so they won’t be as good as my post, but they’re ok.):
1. “Chain Blog: One Another” by Alan
2. “Linking One Another” by Swanny
3. “What Does It Mean to Love One Another? by Chuck
4. “The treasure of “One Another” by Jim
5. “This is how the world shall recognise you…” by Kathleen
6. “Accepting one another in love” by Chris
7a. “One Another-ing: A meta-narrative for the church”  (Part 1 of 2) by Greg
7b. “One Another-ing: A meta-narrative for the church”  (Part 2 of 2) by Greg
8. “Individualism and ‘one another’” by Pieter
9. “All Alone with One Another” by Jeremy
10. “When it’s OK for Christians to compete” by Joshua
11. “Jesus Christ, the Corner Stone for One Another” by Peter
12. “Be Superficial with One Another” by Jon
13. “The Unmentionable One Anothers” by Alan
14. “Loving more fully and widely” by Chris
15. “the one another weapon” by Dan
16a. “Corporate One-Anothering” (Pt.1 of 2) by David
16b. “Corporate UN-Anothering” (Pt. 2 of 2) by David
17.”“The Last Revival” by Tobie
18.“love: a ‘one another’ comic” by Dan
19.“I Can Only Love You If…” by Rob



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    4. Donald Borsch Jr.

      I must applaud you, Dan. You consistently come up with ways to find fault with others, or how The Word speaks to them and how it offends you to the point of whining about it online.

      Bravo, sir.

    5. Chris Jefferies

      Unfortunately Dan, I must point out a serious mistake in your post. You were actually kind to me when you said my previous item in the chain was ‘great’. You could have been really mean, clearly a missed opportunity.

      Apart from that one minor slip I really, really like what you wrote :-)

      • Dan Allen

        Thanks Chris! At first I was going to blast you, when I thought you were telling ME to clear the debts of my brothers and sisters in Christ, but when I realized you were telling OTHERS to pay off MY debts, I got really excited!

    6. Alan Knox


      Thanks for taking part in the chain blog.

      However, I must point out that Romans 12:10 says, “Outdo one another in showing honor.” I don’t think you did a very good job of showing me honor.


    7. David Bolton

      Dan, I enjoyed this post very much, and the comments following. How often we can use the Word as a sword on others when it is meant to search our own hearts. Well done! :-)

      I have a two-part post in the works now I would like to add to this chain blog. I’ll post the first part on Friday and then add part two sometime the week following. (If anyone wishes to add to the chain blog in the interim, please feel free to do so to keep it rolling. Not a problem!)


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